Also, according to Malla, the father of the girl commits suicide because he has not been able to manage for the dowry demanded by the parents of the boy. Subsequently the girl develops inferiority complex. There is a strong preference for male children, which has been blamed for years of female feticide. It is a rural iron ore worker community of 12,800 people. No one at the meeting mentioned the need to report the case to the police or even of socially boycotting the family. Years later, I decoded that cryptic message.
Continuous physical and mental torture instigates women to go into depression and commit suicide. What will society say about me? It is all business with very little room for feelings like love. Both givers and takers of dowry talk about these things and value them with a feeling of pride. Madhya Pradesh too was not far behind compared to Bihar. Another reason is when the boy's father has borrowed huge sums of money for the boy's education. The poor Rajputs in Rajasthan started killing newly born female children due to fear of dowry.
A boy becomes a more valued object than a girl. A boy with good education and employment becomes much sought after match for a girl. This will help to improve the situation further because we have found that gifts given to the bride are often only a guise for dowry since generally she has little or no control over them. Social Effects: Society owes its origins to masses and when we speak of the constituent evils of the segment in our subcontinent, dowry system is one of the most leveraged one. It has become a vicious evil.
Parents of son belonging to higher caste or higher economic strata often legitimize impossible demands to middle-class parents of girls. It is a feat which cannot be achieved by the government alone. This was an all-time high number of such incidents, and dowry was the most prominent cause of such a phenomenon. It also stems from the belief that young girls can be better molded into the household roles than older girls. The word dowry owes its origin to Anglo-Norman French word, dowarie, and has continued to exist for long in the society.
But her parents gave and received dowry for her and her brother. He had the same opinion. Physical and behavioral restrictions are imposed on girls that are completely natural for boys. There are conflicting arguments as to what the solution here is. The blowout of the dowry system forced the government to take action in the middle of last century, introducing the Anti-Dowry Act in 1961 which outlawed the giving and receiving of dowries. The Nayars are a matrilineal and matrilocal society, with an institution of visiting husbands.
In middle class family boy is always given more importance in respect of food, dresses, medical care and education only due to practice of dowry. Her husband periodically throws her out of the house, sometimes even in the middle of the night. It sounded bizarre to me. It did not come as a surprise to him when he became the sole provider for his parents, sister, and maternal grandparents immediately after he graduated from engineering school. There is such ineffectiveness about the Indian rituals and exercise. This ideal is so ingrained in the psyche of a large number of Indians, they either practically ruin themselves financially in order to pay for the appropriate price of the chosen groom, or make a bid to eradicate the prospect of this financial burden by selective gender-biased abortion or female infanticide. Yet again, the dowry system asks for a revolution.
According to 2011 census data, in the age group 0-6 years, there are 914 girls to every 100 boys in India. Actual numbers are not known, but anecdotally about half of the weddings in my family and friend's circles involve dowry. For him, retirement was to be the freedom I was enjoying at that moment — enough money to live comfortably with no obligations. Dowry is thus a great impediment in the progress of education of girls and girls being deprived of higher education are unable to raise their status. There is, however, a clear difference between the bride-givers and the bride-takers because of the rules of marriage practised in most parts of India. Dowry system is a social evil and owes its origination to ignorance and illiteracy.
She said it was basic economics that we were too young to understand. Ancient men were more concerned about safety of women and they wanted the strongest and bravest men to marry their daughters. Arranging a marriage is conducted much like a company merger. I wore an armor of gold. Originaly dowry acted as offering of insurance policy for those who got married.